The Last Day of My Life !

So today is the Last Day of my Life !

Isn't that what people say when something horrible or terrifying is about to happen ?

Well, today I have to go to court to fight for full custody over my 4 year old son, because his biological dad, who is Dutch and lives in Belgium is convinced that he would make the better parent - at least, that's what he officially claims. In all reality, what he wants to do is hurt me and what better way to do so in moving my son down to Belgium/the Netherlands !

I would call him a deadbeat father, who has no job, no education and no apartment of his own. But, he keeps telling the court that if only he gets custody, the Belgic State is going to help him with all of this and he is going to receive a lot of funding; now that, I call an incentive to get a child: MONEY!

Already now, he has never paid child support and he only comes to visit our son on a regular basis when other people pay for his trips !

Aaaaaarrrgh !

I have been cleaning up my life: I changed my life style dramatically, got a good apartment, am enrolled in University, got married and we both have an income. "Why on Earth would the Danish Gov't hand the child over to that guy!?" You are asking ? Well, that's because it is Denmark and the Municipality is convinced that I am a bad mother (long, mostly private/personal story). I guess, all you need to know is that anything they have complained about before is not valid anymore !

I shall pray to God to be with me during and after the court session, so that I will be calm enough and talk rather than scream! :(

God, grant me the Serenity... Amen 

An Eye for an Eye - An Intermediate Post

So yesterday my husband and I had to attend a meeting at the municipality. Turns out, someone had called anonymously to say horrible things about me. Well, it was anonymous as far as no name was left goes. However, this person knew intimate details about me and what really gave it away was the fact that this person knew that I had broken all contact to people. This is only partly true, for I had broken off all contact with Mormons (except for a fare few) and only they knew!


So in the end, figuring out who the caller was, proved to be easier than expected. In fact, it was my husbands best friends !


Okay, backtrack.
Back in April my husband (well, then he was my fiancee) told his friends in trust, that we had broken the Law of Chastity*, meaning we had sex before marriage. Being good (!?!) Mormons they did their duty and informed the Bishop, even though he had told them that he was going to have a talk with him soon.
I won't bore you with the details, but the end of it all was that both of us almost got excommunicated only 2 months before our actual wedding, even though we both talked to our respective Bishops !


I guess the worse part is that they don't even find anything wrong with their actions for according to "Mormon Rules" Members are supposed to spy on one another and report any mishaps to the Bishop or even Stake President/Mission President if they see fit!


This is a very simple but effective way to keep the Members on a short leech. This way there is no use for surveillance by the "Dictator"** for the Members themselves do it gladly for him!


Interestingly enough, I should have known seeing as I spent a lot of time with Missionaries. After their trainings camps (aka MTC = Missionary Training Center) they are let loose as totally brainwashed and overzealous teens who spy on one another and even warn one another: "If you break even one rule from the White Handbook*** I will tell on you to the Mission President !"
Worse case senario: they will be sent home without honor, meaning they will be carrying a scarlet letter on their chests and no woman is going to be interested in them marriage wise or otherwise… they then have to move to another city or even another State !


For us the consequence is that my husband seems a broken man: his life long friends went behind his back, told on him to the Bishop --- back stabbing amongst best friends !


I need my husband, my son needs him and he can't take care of us due to overeager Mormons ! 


Sorry for the excessive usage of the exclamation mark, but I felt like screaming this out to ease my soule… 




*note of the Blogger: next to Murder, the Law of Chastity is the worst law you can break !
(Well, according to the Members that is, for if you read the official handbook, it's a whole different story)


**By "Dictator" I mean self proclaimed Prophet and President of the LDS Church


***The White Handbook is the Book of Don'ts if you will, just for Missionaries